Christmas, commercialism, and consumerism. They’re all tied up together and I can’t help feeling disappointed that Christmas is more about shopping than anything else nowadays. Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE the mid-winter festivities, feasting, imbibing, socialising and gift-giving. Not to mention the sense of bittersweet nostalgia that these weeks bring with them. It’s lots of fun. Or it ought to be. But I’m really not keen on the intense shopping aspect to it all. So I tend to ignore it for as long as possible. However, I wouldn’t advise anyone else to follow my lead. Since I leave everything until the last minute, I quite often can’t get hold of the gifts I know people in my family would like. A few years ago my mother had to do with a promise of a Kindle on Christmas morning which wasn’t due back in stock until mid January.
This year I have told the boys I am not able to spend lots of money on presents although I’m pretty sure I say that every year and then a sense of guilt sets in and somehow I forget my intentions and still manage to get out in time and buy a whole load of ‘stuff’. But I’m going to be strong this year and try to stick to my guns. Perhaps it can be a sort of old year’s resolution and unlike a new year’s resolution, where you have a full 365 days ahead of you in which to fail, there are only a few weeks left, so surely I can do it. Not only do I want to avoid buying lots of junk, I’d really much rather give experiential presents.
Even before I mentioned this Son No 1, he totally surprised me when said for Christmas he would like a photography shoot of us all in Richmond park. He has decided he’d like a framed print to put on the wall of his room when we move. Obviously he’d also like a TV, sofa, sound system and coffee table, because at the tender age of 11 he is fantasising about turning his room into some sort of bachelor pad. But thankfully he knows there isn’t a chance in hell of getting any of that stuff from me for Christmas, so not only is he being delightfully unmaterialistic by asking for something so personal, he’s also being a realist, which is an impressive development, I must say. I was, nevertheless, quite gobsmacked.
“What?” I said, “You want a picture of your family? And you want me to take it?” Wow – all those anger-fuelled insults during the last couple of years about my photography being rubbish and how much he hates his brothers and me suddenly dissolved in a moment on uncharacteristic familial appreciation. I’m not sure it will last and I suspect he’d be rather disappointed on the morning of the 25th December if there wasn’t any junk at all to unwrap. Oh, no! I suddenly feel so full of love, awe and motherly pride, prompted by his wanting one my photographs on his wall that I’m starting to feel compelled to go out and buy him lots of expensive stuff which I can’t afford, such as a special fruitily named watch I know he’d be extraordinarily pleased with …. goodness, what a slippery slope that could so easily be. And how short my old year’s resolution nearly lasted. Yikes, it’s hard to resist the pull of commercialism.
Son No 2 has not yet learned the art of subtle manipulation so there are plenty of straightforward “I wants” coming from his direction. To be fair to him he has said he is perfectly prepared to pay for the plastic arsenal he is so keen on acquiring with his pocket money savings. Sadly for him his concept of what £20 can buy has yet to reach anything approaching reality so it’s a constant circular discussion right now. Thankfully, the youngest still doesn’t really know what any of it’s about so his needs and wants are more immediate and often easier to satisfy. I want a funny yogurt he’ll wail from time to time. By that he means the ones that are half pink and half yellow for anyone wondering how yoghurts ever get to be humorous. Easily sorted though! Although it does require actually remembering to order a shop from the supermarket occasionally. My poor kids – in fact it seems, all they might really want is a mother who can get it together to make sure there is milk for breakfast in the morning! (I’m not that bad really – all in the name of hyperbole, honest!)
I know this whole present buying conundrum is felt by most parents nowadays. Kids have so much stuff it’s often quite difficult to work out what to buy them; how much to spend; what if anything do any of them even need. I’m not sure how everyone else goes about solving it. If you have any ideas, do let me know!
This week I’m posting some images from a family shoot that was given as a Christmas gift last year. If that’s the sort of thing you might be interested in then do get in touch and I can arrange a voucher. Alternatively, there is still a little time left to organise a shoot and print photographs before Christmas. I also have framed prints of images ready to go or which can ordered in the next couple of weeks. Check out my website for details.
Have a good weekend all. I’m looking forward to a PTA organised quiz at the kids’ school!